Thursday, November 14, 2013

Reaching Out

What do you do when you're sad?

I bet "be nice to other people" isn't on your list. Calling a friend to ask for attention might be, but it's not the same.
My therapist recommended that if I ever get the urge and I have no one to turn to, I should send out nice messages or do something altruistic before I act on any urges. 
You send out a message like "hey, pretty eyes" without expecting a response. And for some reason, doing that makes you happier, because you know someone else will be happier when they receive it. 
When I've done a big gesture, I felt such a surge of love that it made me feel at peace with myself. 

Try it! And let me know what you think. 

8 comments:

  1. yeeeaaahhhh.... No... My "normal" reaction when I am sad used to be eating.. When I got pregnant and tried to avoid binges - I used to put on some girly movie I know I like and just relax with it. Right now - I dunno.. I try to talk to my friend or to my husband but yeah.. I dunno..

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  2. There's an article on this I read, I'll try to find it for you, its some interesting psychology. I listen to music. If its crippling depression or anxiety, I give myself ten minutes in bed, then reevaluate if I still want to be there. Als OK there's a link in the sidebar on my blog to my novel :-)

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  3. 'When I've done a big gesture, I felt such a surge of love that it made me feel at peace with myself.' pretty much sums it up! That's why I love blogging and writing positive comments to other bloggers because it feels so good! I feel like I've got friends! Take care!

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  4. I will help others when I am going through tough times because no on helps me. I know how shitty it is to be alone in your ordeals.

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  5. Hey there lovely lady. I hope you're okay, and just absent because of the busy season. I've been missing your posts, and think of you and your weekly goals each Monday. Just wanted to wish you a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. You're in my thoughts and I do hope you're okay. Take care xx

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  6. Hope your break from school is going great. Happy New Year

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  8. hey, changed my username since my boyfriend found it a while back. used to be cosmicbaby, now oxyskinny. hope you're well.

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