Tuesday, March 12, 2013

There's a Girl I Don't Know

There’s a girl at my school who I sometimes see at lunch. She’s probably around 4 ft 10, and she always wears the same outfit- a white sweater over black running pants. Her legs are probably as thick as a chair leg. When I see her get food she carefully picks out pieces of cauliflower, a mountain of shredded carrots, and a few other vegetable-y things. If that’s what she eats for lunch, yay. Except then I thought, maybe she doesn’t eat dinner or breakfast.
I wonder if she is anorexic. She might have some other medical condition that causes her to be super thin. I want to ask her.
She seems nice. I accidentally bumped into her as she was getting a plate and she smiled at me and said “sorry.”
I wonder if she thinks she’s the only one at our school with an eating disorder. I wonder what she would think if I told her I had one too.
I hope she’s ok. I hope she’s working on recovery, because frankly, if I had to guess, I would say her low weight is putting her at high risk of death in the near future.
Am I being judgy? I’m just worried about her.


  1. I don't think you are. There's a girl in my Spanish class that has legs like that, always chewing gum. I don't know why, but I think we can sense it in each other. For some reason I just knew she had or had struggled with one. Maybe not. I'm pretty perceptive and have learned to rely on that gut feeling so I think she might. What do you say though? How do you even open up about yourself? I don't know. Maybe you could be a friend to her and start saying hi, or sitting by her?

  2. I don't think you're being judgy. You're concerned about her, and that's not judgmental.
    Maybe try opening up a conversation to build a friendship, without mentioning her possible ED at first. It might be a bit overwhelming if you confront her about it initially, so maybe try to build a friendship with her first.

  3. I don't think you are being judgy - you are caring.. but at the same time I think you should be very careful brining it up.. I had the "do you have an ED" talk with someone once.. and I started with telling my story..

    This is a hard one :)


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