No one in their right mind wants to develop an eating disorder. Those that say they do already have disordered thoughts and beliefs. Eating disorders are acts of desperation for a variety of reasons. People are driven to them and they are controlled by them from the very beginning, not the other way around.
There are people out there who like being as skinny as an eating disorder will take them. Or rather, they feel more comfortable being that skinny versus a little bigger. This doesn’t mean they chose the disorder. It means they’re already controlled by the disorder and they’re acting on beliefs ingrained in them by what the disorder has taught them.
There are people who like their eating disorders. That does not mean those people chose them. EDs are coping mechanisms, so it makes sense that people would have some affinity for them. Again, they are controlled by the beliefs their ED has taught them instead of choosing for themselves.
There are people who might even say that they chose an ED as a lifestyle. I’m sorry but no. People are scammed, tricked, and forced into eating disorders by beliefs, circumstances, and feelings. Even if someone feels like she’s in control, she’s not. And no one, not even herself, can do anything about it.
One more thing: I have a real problem with people saying that eating disordered individuals choose their disorders because this puts the blame on the ones with the illness. And blame just makes everything worse. It makes you feel bad, and then guilty, which drives you to cope through eating disordered behaviors, which just compounds itself over and over and over again. If you want people to get better, you can’t blame them.