Saturday, June 22, 2013

How to Tell Him?

I need advice.
I recently went to my first group therapy session, and they invited me to something on Monday which is all about support people. So I thought I would bring one of my friends who doesn't know about my ED. I don't think I can tell him before walking into the room of the group. Do you think it would be mean to not tell him beforehand? Do you think it's a wise idea to bring him at all?


  1. If it was me Emily, I would tell him before hand
    Just to give him a heads up
    I'm sure he would appreciate it
    If you can't tell him, then maybe write to him
    That may be easier

    Good luck, let us know how you get on x

  2. I think you should tell him beforehand, and tell him WHY you want him to be there and how his support would help you. Good luck. This is coming from the girl that barely tells anyone and avoids it at all costs, so that takes cajones to bring a friend to a support group.

  3. I agree that you should tell him beforehand. As PrettyLies said, explain to him why you want him there and how his support would hell. It might startle him if he has no idea about your ED until you're in group.


  4. I agree with the above. Tell him. I would say that you are struggling with someone and need non judgmental support and that you value/trust him as a friend so that's why you're asking. Good luck hun!

  5. i'd just tell him. that's it.
    there's no 'how to tell him'. there's just: sit down and tell him. there's no easy way of saying that you have a mental disease, any of it, so just saying it tends to help. <3 that's how it is for me anyway. i find that with harder things, i just tend to spit it out, because any way i sugar coat it, they're still getting the same information xo
    good luck, honey!

    -Sam Lupin

  6. I agree with everybody else...there's not a right or wrong way to do it, but you should do it.
    It's not fair to spring it on him, but I know it's a difficult thing to talk about.

    I think writing it down is a good idea, there's never really a great time to blurt something like that out, and I know I'd put off telling him for exactly that reason. I'd just explain what the deal is, that you'd like him to be there for it, but that you know it might be a lot for him to take in.

    Good luck sweetie, I'm sure he'll do his best to be there for you!! :)

    - Hope xx (


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